Girls have their ways of sticking someone in the friend zone and I'm pretty sure we all know how we do it. Sometimes I stick people in the friend zone on accident, although this is rare....it's like I get to know them too well and then I reach a point where it's just too late and I realize that it's going to be awkward and like hooking up with my brother. Most times, friend zone placement is totally deliberate. Who cares about girls and the Friend Zone. We know about that, it's talked about too much and it's boring. What I care about is this...do guys stick girls in the friend zone and if they do, how? Because I'm not so sure they do the things we do....like talk about the opposite sex and make comments like "Awww thanks" and "you're such a good friend, I love you."
Ok. These are not my words!!! No one get mad! I asked a lot of my guy friends and this is what they said. It's probably not every single guy on the planet, but this seems to be pretty standard.
There really isn't a Chick Zone. The only way a guy friend zones a girl is if she is chubby and not attractive to them. That works, but as soon as that girl steps over the line, there's no placing them in a zone. They avoid and pretty much run because they don't want to have a conversation about why they aren't attracted to the girl because they don't want to hurt her feelings.
Girls, if you have one of the three: nice ass, nice boobs, or a pretty face, you can't be chick zoned because it doesn't exist. Your guy friends will sleep with you, unless you have a boyfriend and that may not even matter. If you have all three, you are just a fox and if you are this girl, every dude wants to sleep with you. Don't fool yourself. So basically, all you have to do is say the word if you want to hook up.
I also heard from some of my guy friends that they don't have any ugly girl friends at all.
So I had even more questions.
What about a guy who sleeps with you and then friend zones you? Nope. Not the same. That's a break-up even if you weren't together. You wanted more, he didn't, but he'd still sleep with you if you didn't make it complicated. But you did. So now you're "friends".
What about a guy who sleeps with you and then friend zones you? Nope. Not the same. That's a break-up even if you weren't together. You wanted more, he didn't, but he'd still sleep with you if you didn't make it complicated. But you did. So now you're "friends".
One of the guys I talked to is one of my favorite men on the planet. I've known him since I was 15 and I friend zoned him back then. He's a man now and he simply doesn't allow me to stick him in the friend zone. He talks to me like a friend but if I talk about guys, he doesn't answer back. He says he adores me like he always did, but he's not "that guy" and I've gotta tell you, guys, it's pretty hot. I also always run back to talk to him. He's the kind of guy that thinks it's total bullcrap to control women and he's the type of guy who would set parameters as far as what he wants, and then leave the cage door wide open for any girl to fly away if she pleased. That's a man, in my eyes.
Part of the reason we friend zone you is because we don't know what we want, and because we can. And if you can handle it, cool. That's awesome for us. But sometimes if you told us no, we would probably come a runnin'. If we don't, well then we were never going to anyway. If you still want friendship after that, then you may as well go back and be friends with the girl.
See, girls want to be respected, but they want to be dominated, even the independent ones. You want to know why the jerk gets the girl? When we're younger, we mistake control for dominance. Plus, jerks probably don't care enough to be our friends. They don't allow us to put them in the friend zone. When a girl grows into a woman, she realizes what the difference is, and if you're too passive with her, she might perceive this as weakness. We love you for being sweet, but we may friend zone you.
That's what I've got.
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