My newsfeed is clogged with the news of Robin Williams and I keep seeing people ask the same question over and over in their posts....Why would he do this? Why would such a talented, funny person who made us all laugh kill himself?
The answer is so clear to me even without hearing the details yet and there are three aspects....
I have no doubt in my mind that Robin Williams often felt alone because he was a creative person. Creative people often feel alone and fear that people don't understand them. For one, they tend to feel extreme highs and lows because that's how inspiration and creativity often works. Creative people have a harder time grounding themselves and being part of the world while not becoming stale and boring, so they kind of create their own world where they can just be. This clashes with reality sometimes, which causes them problems.
Smart people, like Robin Williams, feel alone when they speak because they're always seeking acknowledgment and stimulation. If that isn't around, they self-stimulate, which can drive them crazy.
Finally, funny, happy people feel the most alone when they're sad. Why? Because they disappoint people when they show any other emotion, so they hide it. When you are a generally happy person or a funny person, people come to expect it of you. Sometimes people are more offended when you are in a bad mood as opposed to someone else who is "moody" and they don't cut you slack because it's not in your nature to be anything but happy. You are held to a higher standard. People like Robin Williams or Chris Farley, are often like rays of sunshine that bless everyone else around them. Their main goal in life is to make others happy and to smile and laugh. When you are like this, you feel like a failure if you burden other people with any emotion that isn't sunshine.
Pay attention to the person smiling all the time. When they are in pain, they're the last to tell anyone they're not okay.
well said
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