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| Don't be this girl |
I have been advising one of my friends lately about a guy
she likes and it’s sparked me to write this because I think a lot of women
could benefit from this advice, even though they have heard about it over and
over. (Myself included.) “He’s just not that into you” is not a groundbreaking concept and yet
we sometimes refuse to accept how simple it is.
We want to give men the benefit of the doubt when we start talking to
them but it’s really such a stupid thing to do.
You can avoid a lot of problems and save a lot of time by avoiding men
that aren’t interested from the get-go, but you have to do it early before
you’re hooked, in the palm of their hands, and wind up with a broken heart.
This is a simple rule:
Don’t chase men,
plain and simple.
Men are easy to figure out for the most part. If they aren’t texting you, move on because
there is a reason they aren’t texting you.
It doesn’t matter what the reason is because it doesn’t concern you. If they aren’t trying to see you, move
on. It doesn’t matter why they aren’t
trying because it’s none of your business and it doesn’t measure your
worth. If they want to see you but only
if you come to them, move on. Screw
that. I mean, really??? You are expected to use YOUR gas money, rearrange
YOUR schedule, go out of YOUR way…for what, a lazy little boy who can’t even
commit to dinner??? No. If they aren’t taking you out or calling you,
move on. Their actions are telling you
what the end result will be and it will not end in your favor. The guy could have 100 real reasons for
stringing you along, but why do any of them matter to you? Do the “reasons” change anything? No. And
because there are so many girls doing the chasing nowadays, if they are lazy
and spoiled, they have options that make it easy for them to never have to hunt
or do anything and you are simply too difficult. I don’t know about you,
but I am not a slab of meat plopped
in front of a zoo lion. I am a lion
running in the wild and I would rather be difficult than plop in front of someone. Too much work? Sorry about your luck. And regarding the ones who are willing to hunt you, well,
congratulations. You found a man and in
one swift move, you managed to separate him from the boys.
Ask any man and he will tell you the following:
If a guy wants to see you, he will find a way. Even men who know they don’t have a SHOT IN
HELL will usually try. Remember, this is
the same gender that shouts at you from their cars in traffic and from gas
stations and construction sites so why are we so willing to give them excuses
when it favors what we want to
believe? If a guy is thinking about you,
he’s texting and calling you. If a guy
wants to commit, he is going to commit.
If he is interested, he will show you.
If he doesn’t want someone else to have you, he won’t leave you alone
and available. There is no other
explanation. And if you are seeing him
but you have to do all of the work, reevaluate that situation. You are a perfectly convenient situation for the present time. It doesn't mean you will change him.
Men also prefer a challenge, unless they're losers or lazy pieces of crap.
They are hunters and they don’t want something that falls into their lap. (Neither do I, actually, so I understand the
feeling.) If we could all behave the same way with the guys we like as the ones we don’t, we would be a
lot better off. Remember this before you send that text because he
ignored your last one! Ask yourself "Would I be inclined to do this with (insert the guy you don’t like)?"
I have been in one situation where I had to do everything
and it did not end well, nor was it like me at all to alter myself to that
degree, nor was it a good reflection of me, and I can guarantee that it will
never happen again. I stick to this
philosophy and if you are vigilant and love yourself and value your time and your heart and your efforts, I promise that it will
help to keep the lazy, confused, wishy-washy assholes out of your life…also, it's exhausting chasing little boys, isn't it? Pointless and exhausting!
Here are the rules:
- Chill, don't chase. Just calm down and let him come to you. If he doesn't, you got your answer.
- Do not text or call him when he is random, spacey, disappears, and then comes back around when he feel like it.
- Set your own terms.
- Do not rearrange your schedule at the drop of a hat when he does nothing to plan ahead.
- Don't ask him out and constantly run around like a crazy person trying to see him.
- Don't put in the effort when he is not.
- Put it out there and see what he does...and listen to what he says.
A guy once said to me “I don’t chase, you'll have to chase me.”
My answer was “Then I guess we won’t be seeing much of each
other.”
It’s legit. Try it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=piGl_Vfcfi4
