Last week I posted an article about how to stop screwing up with women and I added my own opinions. Now I would like to talk to the ladies.....it's only fair. I am not an expert, but I do know what I hate about women and sometimes myself, and I assume that guys probably hate the same things. The guy in the article last week only came up with 6, but I came up with 10 because I am smarter. Heehee. Ok, maybe we screw up more.....
- Don't react so quickly. I hate to say it, but ladies, we have to chill for a second and think before we speak and react. We really can be dramatic. Science has proven that our brains are actually different than a man's and we have to appreciate those differences if we aren't going to become lesbians. If we did and said every crazy ass thing that we were inclined to do and say, we would be crazy bitches, and let's face it.....sometimes we are because we don't know how to control ourselves. Chill the freak out. It's embarrassing. Be a little more logical. If you feel something, think about it for a minute and give yourself time to figure out exactly what is bothering you. The result will be a lot better. Plus, if you do this, they won't assume that you're just on your period.
- Don't Hate Women. This only makes you bitter and unlikeable. Stop being jealous and talking crap about other women and maybe when you are around a man, you will actually look like you are enjoying yourself and not like you just had your yearly pap smear. There's more drama between girls than any other place, so don't you think we should fix this? I think we call each other sluts more than guys do, which only makes it worse, since the men are sleeping with them. It makes no sense to hate each other. I'll bet that you can find at least one thing to appreciate about any girl, even if it's just her good-lookin' pedicure. Stop being mean and you will be happier. Life is too short. Smile!!!
- Use Your Brain and Have an Opinion.....But You Aren't Always Right. This one is seems tricky, but it shouldn't be. It's great to be a smart chick because dumb girls (and guys) are a liability to society in general, but too often if we speak up, we are often known as difficult or bitchy. I say who cares. Speak up, but listen to others and respect their opinions. If you are treating others with respect, then the people who think poorly of you probably suck anyway. A real man appreciates a woman for more than her ass. Don't be a dumbass for a guy. They don't like when you act foolish. Note to stupid girls.....stop being retarded and a guy will like you for longer than two days.
- Accept Men for Who They Are. They are never going to be perfect. End of story. We should try to understand them and ask them to do the same for us.
- Don't be a Doormat: I don't really like Dr. Phil, but he says one thing that makes a lot of sense and that's that we teach people how to treat us. If you want respect, you should demand it.....but this doesn't mean doing crazy crap like cutting their brake lines and throwing things at them. Someone once told me that to really be respected, you have to earn it and demand it. Too often there are people who demand it and don't deserve it and there are people who deserve it and don't demand it, but you have to both earn and demand respect if you are to be respected. This is very difficult for a sweet person, or someone with a long fuse.
- Be Real. Present yourself for who you are, say what you want and communicate. Don't pretend to be something you aren't and don't say things you don't mean. Don't say things like "nothing" when a guy asks what's wrong and something is wrong. If something is wrong, speak up, or say you'll talk about it later when you are more rational. And another thing.....guys have the attention span of a gnat sometimes.....try not to talk to them like you would a girlfriend. They won't understand you. Be honest, be real, and show the guy what he's getting into. If you lie about who you are, where does that get you? Where does it get him? When you grow and change over the years, talk about those changes. It's real. Be real and be you. If he doesn't love you for you, at least you find out early on.
- Give Him Space. Just because he wants like two seconds away from you doesn't mean he doesn't love you. Obviously, I am not saying that he should neglect you, but let him be his own person and have some room to breathe.
- Be Your Own Person. Don't be the girl who ditches her friends for a guy. You should still retain your interests and be able to do things on your own even though you have a boyfriend or husband. You should be in a relationship for the right reasons....to be with the other person because you love him, not so you can complete yourself. Jerry Maguire was full of crap. No one can complete you. Be you. If you don't know who you are, find out and definitely don't be with anyone until you know; someone always ends up getting hurt.
- Stroke His Ego. I know I just said to be independent, but don't be so independent that the guy doesn't even feel needed. I sort of feel sorry for guys nowadays because we really can function alone and make as much money, etc. Whatever the case may be, make sure he feels appreciated and important. You want the same thing. No one wants to feel useless in the world. You stroke his, he'll stroke yours....it's all good.
- Leave the Past in the Past. You can either get over something or not. If you agree to move on from a situation, move on and stop throwing it in his face. If we remember what a girl did to us in first grade, we probably remember everything that our man says and does, which really sucks for them. We may never forget, but forgiveness really becomes a decision at a certain point and if you can't get over something, then don't, but end it. If you can get over something, cool. You're a cool chick and probably a pretty sweet person.
Have a fantastic day!
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